“Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion, it is not the desire to mate every second minute of the day, it is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every cranny of your body. No, don’t blush, I am telling you some truths. That is just being “in love”, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.”
—Louis de Bernières (via kari-shma) (via lovebot, kari-shma)
July 2010
5 posts
tonight
“I’m just gunna give it a shot and say what I think you’re actually thinking: there are new things going for you, and you know they’re all good but you’re still afraid. All these things that you’re already tied to, you just said you know it’s bad but you’re afraid to cut out these ties because that’s all you know, and you don’t want this new thing to be another let down….”
“I just don’t want to be disappointed again. I don’t need another disappointment.”
“But I don’t think this will be a disappointment. I think this can work out. It will work out if you just let it.”
“The most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention… A loving silence often has far more power to heal and to connect than the most well-intentioned words.”
—Rachel Naomi Remen (via kari-shma) (via quote-book)
not over
I’ve been beating myself up because I just insist on making things more complicated than they really are, because I know, the solutions are simple. I’m sad or upset so I should do something that will make me happy; or think of things that can make things better. Those are all so simple, but they aren’t easy. There’s a difference.
Either way, I want to get better. I need to get better.
I need a change.
I’ll do better, and it might take a while and it’s going to be really hard but I promise I’ll try with everything that I have.
i'm going through changes
I’m walking around fighting with myself; I’m jumping from one quick fix to another and I can’t figure out how to put my mind at peace. I have everything to lose and I’m struggling trying to hold on to everything I care about.
I don’t wanna slip; I don’t wanna lose.
I don’t wanna keep this all in. But no one can help me anymore. And I don’t want to fight anymore.
